Tuesday, March 24, 2009
Decisions
I really liked the class lecture today about decisions in marriage. I particuarly liked how we looked closely at the six influences by looking at the examples from the movie. I see these examples in many of my roommates discussions with their own boyfriends. At this minute one of my roommates is actually on the phone having a discussion with her boyfriend about how they don't spend a lot of time together. He is on spring break now and she is using the legitimate influence on him telling him that he has to come down and see her. I also overheard another one of my roommates tell her boyfriend the other day that if he wanted to go to school out of state for grad school she would figure out a way to make it work so that she can go with him. She is using the Referent Influence in this situation for she is showing that she loves and respects him and supports his decision to go. I feel that understanding these influences will help me be better able to understand how decisions in relationships are made and in a professional setting will help me be able to help families deal with their problems at making effective decisions.
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I agree with you when you say that the different influences can help you with your relationships with not only your boyfriend/girlfriend but also your family.
I remember four days ago me and my bestfriend where in california and I heard her talking to her boyfriend and he said that he could not wait for her to back from california and she told him that she is thinging about staying with her aunt and uncle for some months and I heard him say that he was going to do what ever he could to come visit her. I feel like the influences can help me in many ways when dealing with relationships because then I know how to handle different situations.
Influence has a lot to do with relationsips. If people can agree to have an actual healthy relationship then there will always changes that people will have to make. My friend and I went to California also and she stayed out there but was also in love with her man. He told her that she needed to stay in school becuase it was the smartest thing to do and when they both finished they could move out there together possibly which could be the expert influence since he couldnt decide for her to stay in school or not but at least guide her in the right direction
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