Conflict

I like how we are continuing to reiterate the importance of concentrating on the process of arguments and conflicts instead of being so strongly focused on the content or what we are arguing about. I feel that many people, myself included are very guilty of worrying about what it is that we are fighting about instead of examining the way in which we fight. I feel that many individuals who are in relationships often feel like their partner doesn't understand them and their feelings when it comes to things that they argue about. This may be a direct case of the way that they fight. Maybe in their arguments they are so busy yelling at each other that they don't spend the time to really listen to what the other person is saying. If they can learn to fight in a more calm manner maybe they will be able to really understand where their partner is coming from and find ways that they can negotiate about possible solutions to their conflict. In a professional situation I will make sure that I keep the idea of content and process in mind and really help couples figure out what it is in their process of conflict that is causing them to have so much trouble. By better understanding the way they fight I can help them find ways to better handle their conflict.