The Game

I really enjoyed our class discussion today about mating. I particularly liked our discussion on constructive and destructive games that we tend to play in our relationships. I feel that so many of my friends tend to go down the destructive path in their game playing and I can totally see how these types of games have lead them to some really unhealthy relationships. I had one friend who is constantly picking fights with her boyfriend. She would yell at him on the phone and test him constantly in a way that she felt would let him prove his love to her. The only thing her little game did was cause them to have an extremely unhealthy relationship and made everyone around them feel very uncomfortable. In a professional setting I feel that my friend and her boyfriend need to discuss their personal needs and what each of them want out of the relationship. I feel that by opening up their communication in a positive way with out the yelling and bickering they can begin to build a strong relationship. However, they may also decide that the relationship is not working out and that their personal needs are not being met. In that case maybe the best thing to do is to put an end to that relationship.

Destructive Games

I never really realized some of the things that I've seen happen or have done myself were considered destructive games. It's really hard when your in a long relationship for those type of games not to be played at some point in every relationship. Like the "I don't care game" for example. This seems to occur with couples when they've reached the point that they are so frustrated that they just want their partner to shut up. I feel like these destructive games couples play have become very common in relationships. Obviously some couples tend to take the games too far, or the are playing them way too often. At times like this I would say it's a problem, but otherwise I look at these games as normal.

Cohabitation

We always hear so many statistics that correspond between cohabitation and marriage, and they are usually negative.  We learned in class yesterday that 57% of co-habitating couples dissolve within 10 years of marriage when compared to 30% of all first marriages made up of couples who did not co-habitate before marriage.  I have been hearing these kind of statistics since I was in elementary school and I came to the conclusion that there is no way statistics can define every couple in the world.  Every couple has different ways of functioning and are free to choose if cohabitating would benefit or damage their relationship.  The different kinds of cohabitation were also interesting to learn about, even though we only learned 3 kinds, I'm sure there are a bunch of reasons for why couples choose to co-habitate.  Overall, I guess I'm just not a fan of statistics because there is no way they can apply to everyone. 

single life

I was really kind of shocked that single ment's health was so much lower than single women's. I would think that, not college students of course, men that were a little older could've found a way to take care of themselves better. Now I know my cousin in actually almost 30 but I know for a fact that he is very responsible takes care of himself and all the inbetween. Now my aunt has been divorced for a little over 10 year and here in the past 5 years we saw dramatic changes in her health (mentally and physically) an her well being. My grand parents decided to move into assisted living awhile ago and it has been very good for them. My aunt being the youngest of their children had the hardest time with this and she was still having quite the hard time dealing with her divorce. She went through spans of depression and anger and just disowning out whole family in general. I know how hard it was on my mom, but i see how no matter how it effect my mother she had people (my family and dad's family) that would help her through that time. I guess I just didn't realize how much someone relies on their significat others and other family until they are alone and faced with a challenge.

Single life

I was really kind of shocked that single ment's health was so much lower than single women's. I would think that, not college students of course, men that were a little older could've found a way to take care of themselves better. Now I know my cousin in actually almost 30 but I know for a fact that he is very responsible takes care of himself and all the inbetween. Now my aunt has been divorced for a little over 10 year and here in the past 5 years we saw dramatic changes in her health (mentally and physically) an her well being. My grand parents decided to move into assisted living awhile ago and it has been very good for them. My aunt being the youngest of their children had the hardest time with this and she was still having quite the hard time dealing with her divorce. She went through spans of depression and anger and just disowning out whole family in general. I know how hard it was on my mom, but i see how no matter how it effect my mother she had people (my family and dad's family) that would help her through that time. I guess I just didn't realize how much someone relies on their significat others and other family until they are alone and faced with a challenge.

Single Men and their Health

I thought it was really interesting how single men are not as healthy as single women and it's actually interesting cause I can see why. I am in a relationship and live with 2 other guys who are both single. Our house is an absolute mess all the time because they don't feel they have any reason to clean up because the only people they have over are other guys. The only time they clean the house is whenever they think a girl might come over or if we have a party. I try my best to clean up every once in a while for my girlfriend, but theres only so much I can do when the trash is constantly piling up on the living room coffee table. I have noticed too that we have all been getting a lot sicker this past school year probably because of our living conditions. Trash can go a week or two without ever being taken out, milk will stay left on the counter until it goes rancid and other disgusting things like that. And of course anytime I bring it up they really don't care because they have nobody to clean up for. I think it would be really interesting to see what would happen to our living conditions if they both got into a relationship, or at least one of them so I could have someone take my side when I say our house needs to get cleaned up before we get an infestation.