As professionals in training it is important for us to learn how our responses to clients can have an effect on their trust with us, willingness to share, and whether or not they will continue to seek us for help. In class we stressed a few traditional responses such as personal experience. When listening to people who have just experience a traumatic event this is not good at all. My boyfriend lost his older brother when he was in his early 20s. He said many people would say, "I know how you're feeling, my grandma just died or grandpa" or something like that. Even though he remembers little from the day of the funeral he says that those comments stick because he was so angry when he heard them. As professionals or even friends who want to be there for you during hard times it is important to think about how our responses will impact the other person.