I believe that this is different among varying families, based on each family's dynamics, structure and functioning. I have 2 older brothers and my family has always been close. When us kids were younger, we did all sorts of family activities together like, eating at home or going out to eat, vacations, movies, shopping, celebrating holidays, lots of things. I am finishing up college and my older brothers have moved away and are in med school and working, but I feel as though we have never been closer than we are now. Our family has faced many hurdles, such as serious medical issues, but I feel as though this has only brought us closer together. Perhaps it is because we are all at a mature age that gives me reason to doubt the "inverted hour glass theory". The relationship I share with my brothers is one that has always been close, besides a short period of time, in which I was in high school and they were in college and already leading their "grown up" lives.
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
Sibling Relationships
Today in class we talked about different myths and facts of midlife and later life. One fact that I don't necessary agree with was the one related to sibling relationships. Dr. Hollist had brought up the idea that it the relationship between siblings is close when they are kids, becomes more distant through out life changes, but becomes close again as the health of parents declines and siblings' own children leave the home.
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I completely agree with the whole inverted hourglass theory. I too think that how families grow apart or stay together has a lot to do with each individual family. I don't see how they can categorize how close people will be based on certain lengths of time. My sister and I are six years apart in age, which made a decent impact on how we relate to each other. When we were growing up we didn't really get along, and were on different levels. As we grew and went on to college I felt like it brought us closer, because we had more connections. In class I had said I thought siblings would be closer when they were having kids. I was surprised to hear that they are usually more seperated at these times in their life. For me this was hard to grasp considering I'm going to have a baby in August, and I feel it has brought me and my sister so much closer. It's something we both can be excited about.
I'm not completely disagreeing with the whole concept of siblings growing apart at different times in their life. I just feel that each family is different and their are too many factors that can effect a sibling bond.
I agree. I too feel that it depends on each individual families becauase I know brothers and sisters that have a close sibling relationships. For example my bestfriend she is in college and has two older siblings and she is closer than ever with them and at times Iam shocked because she has brothers and usually brothers are suppose to be bossy and over protective.
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