After our lecture today it really emphasized my belief that you really need to know and understand yourself as a person before a serious relationship can form. I'm someone who also believes that you learn more about yourself through your life experiences, which includes relationships and dating of course. I also think that you can't expect to learn anything about yourself through flings and meaningless relationships that provide you nothing but the satisfaction of simply having someone else there. Yes, everyone may have experience with those flings, bad decisions and those relationships that didn't last long. Not to mention, those pointless young "relationships" (i.e. having a "boyfriend/girlfriend" in middle school. I admit, I'm guilty...)but it's something that I can look back on and have a good laugh about! Anyway....
Even though those short lived relationships (the ones where you were old enough to process what a relationship meant and didn't do it merely as a socially cool status symbol), seem like not such a big deal, you probably learned something about yourself through them.
The main point I'm trying to get at is that those little relationships help you to understand and know what kind of person you are, which is important when it's time for a serious relationship. You can't build a strong relationship with someone else when you don't know what kind of person you are and what you want in life.
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