I brought my fiancé to class earlier this semester and again last Thursday when we talked about conflict resolution. He is an engineer, and he knows that my classes are much different than his, but he didn’t realize exactly how different. After the first time he came to class, we were walking back to his room and he said, “There aren't any right answers.” Yes, there are no right answers. This last time he came to class with me, we were given six steps for conflict resolution. My fiancé’s face lit up. There was a formula he could follow! After class, I had to dash his dreams by telling him that “following the formula” wouldn’t necessarily get the “right answer.” Couples are a little more complicated than numbers.
As a professional, it is important to understand that we can’t solve family’s problems with cut and dry formulas. Families are different. Different therapy styles are going to work for different families.
In my own professional development as a married woman, it is important for me to understand where my fiancé is coming from. He wants a formula to follow, and that’s okay. We can follow those six steps to conflict resolution, but we both have to aware that the steps are vague. The steps give us direction, but it is our conversation that completes the “formula.”
Thursday, April 2, 2009
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